Hello Blog Lovers!! I know this may seem like an off the wall post, but I just read a post on Black Girl Long Hair, as well as, Strawberri Curls. Both are well known popular natural hair care blogs. To make a long story short the posts were about stylists mixing relaxer and conditioner together on natural hair (hair not relaxed) and calling a Deep Conditioning Treatment. Find these posts Here, Here, and Here (three different posts). After reading the article (s) I felt two emotions, firstly I wanted to scream for her and secondly I wanted to scream at the stylist who is unknown to me. I admit it made me feel bad as a stylist because I hate to hear the negative stigma that comes behind bad salon experiences. As I've stated before on the blog I have been around hair all of my life (in a salon where my mom was the only stylist). I have witnessed many women come through the salon in need of desperate help for their hair after it was damaged from a previous salon job. The number one thing that I have noticed is that with some women, they are doing to much to their hair and it doesn't require much. Many women look for a hot style or the latest style but fail to make sure that the stylist is educated enough to maintain the hair in it's natural state (not just referring to natural hair, but any hair that is not styled, colored, or weaved). It's easy to learn how to put in a good weave and have your hair laid and appear flawless, but what is going on with it after it's taken down? What is he/she capable of doing with it after the weave is gone?
Over the years I've heard of women receiving extreme scalp burns from relaxers, getting excessive trims, thinning to non-existent edges due to tight braids and weaves and it has began to scare many people off from going to a hair salon and created a strong sense of insecurity in hair stylists. It's important for women to know who is styling their hair. If he/she can't grow your natural hair (natural or relaxed) it's time to move on and forget about it. The ultimate goal is and should be to maintain healthy hair. The biggest thing that my mother taught me and has always said, "You know what, you have to take care of the hair and make sure it's healthy...I can attempt to weave a person's hair all day every day but if there is nothing there for me grip for braiding or leave out to cover it and make it appear natural..what is the point?" This was before the invisible part and lace fronts became known to the masses. I don't want to seem like I'm bragging or making my mom out to be a hair guru...but as a licensed professional she was known to help grow hair. Before everyone transitioned from relaxed to natural recently in years past, women would come to my mom to help assist with growing their hair. The other thing that I learned from my mom is that if a client comes into your salon and requests for a service that you know will result in damaging their hair or could potentially take their hair out...don't do it. I know that sounds crazy because money is money you shouldn't turn it down. The ultimate question is would you rather loose a few dollars denying a service to protect you both or thousands along with your business over a lawsuit?
That brings me back to the stylists mixing relaxer and conditioner together...calling it a treatment and forgetting to neutralize. That within itself caused a traumatizing experience because this particular individual began to lose all of her hair. This could have resulted in a law suit (which is should have) for the salon. It's important to know who is styling your hair. Form a relationship with your stylist and if you find a good one you should treasure him/her and work out a plan together on the goals of your hair.Once they become familiar with your hair and your goals for your hair they will be able to fully help you accomplish them. Trust them to know what they are doing and give you what you pay for. I know that sounds hard at first, but it can happen. If you only visit the salon once a year or every six months (for whatever your reasons may be), make sure to stay in contact with you stylist so that the progress goals for your hair are accomplished through the work that you may do on your own. Avoid switching salons and stylists frequently this could lead to issues and problems with your hair. Lastly, as my own little "rant" as a stylist stop letting unlicensed "faux-pheshionals" and your next door neighbor do your hair, or should I say perform chemical services on your hair. It's not hard to learn how to apply permanent color, bleach, and relaxers or a half done sew in... all of that doesn't require that much skill. However, someone who is not familiar or know the proper techniques can lead to hair breakage, scalp burns, or allergic reactions. Make sure you find a salon that specializes in your particular hair care needs.
As I always I say ..I like to keep it real and tell the truth. If it's too real we can agree to disagree and love each other for it later.
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